90% and 10%

Someone told me this story:

One morning, this guy got ready for work and was having his morning coffee when his dotter accidently bumped into him and spilled his coffee all over his white crisp shirt. He got so angry that he spent a good amount of time screaming & scolding his dotter before he realised that he was pressed for time and he needed to iron a new shirt and get changed. He had to send his dotter to school b4 getting to work because he spent so much tym scolding her that she missed her school bus. His dotter was late for sch. He sped thru the lights and was stopped by a traffic police who issued him a speeding fine. By the time he got to work, he was so late that his boss gave him a gd one.

So who's fault is it for this whole string of events?

a) The dotter
b) The coffee
c) The traffic police
d) Himself

If the man had controlled his emotions, and not spent time chiding his dotter, perhaps all this wld not haf happened. Afterall, what happened, happened. And nothing else can be done to change the fact and the best solution wld be take things in stride and make the best out of the worst situation.

Moral of the story: We can control 90% of things happening and 10% juz can't be help. If we can better control our emotions, things mite juz work out for the better.

EASIER SAID THAN DONE... ...

This fren of mine oso told me about having expectations... of coz, the usual known to the entire universe - The higher expectations you haf, the harder u fall... Duh! But... what sets the expectations in the 1st place? It's from the start of the r'ship. E.g. If your bf picks you up from work everyday & spend time with u, and after some time, he juz do it lesser & lesser... of coz the gf will kick up a fuss la... den the bf will be wondering WTF. Or, from the start your gf doesn't cook for you, den ocassionally she does it, u will surely appreciate more? coz u did not expect her to do it, and when she does, its a bonus?!?

Misty has been having a rough week with Master.. its the same vicious cycle that Misty can't seem to get out of.. Here, is the misfitted tt had done wrong or the r'ship, at the start, is already misfitted?

" Men only want the destination while women want the journey... "